Evil Temptressess


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Okay, I don’t usually follow church-related news, but this whole Ted Haggard thing is just appalling. It’s appalling that the man had sexual relationship outside his marriage. It’s appalling that being gay, lesbian or bi is still considered a sin in large portions of the church (thus encouraging secret and destructive behavior.). And it’s appalling is that Mark Driscoll, local evil genius and darling bad-boy of the religious press, has suggested that Haggard might not have gone off the deep end if his wife had been hotter. Yes boys and girls, pastors are less likely to have sex with someone other than their wife if she just hits the gym more and keeps those dark roots touched up with regular visits to her colorist.

(My favorite ‘staying hot’ tip is flashing some cleavage, but god forbid I should do that in Mark’s presence or I might show up in his next article as “the chick who tried to seduce me by wearing a tight scoop neck t-shirt…” Get over yourself already! Although….I am thinking of producing some nice bosomy tees that say “Jesus got ‘Jacked.” Anyone? Anyone?)

IMHO, there is so much wrong with this entire story. First of all, the church should stop considering homosexuality a sin. Not a very popular opinion, I know, but it’s mine through and through. Second, we should be less concerned that Haggard’s secret significant other was a man, and more concerned that Haggard stepped outside of his marriage vows and paid a guy to do it. There’s so much irreverence for the personhood in those actions I can hardly wrap my mind around it. Third, WTF is Driscoll doing blaming women for men’s sexual improprieties? His whole mindset about women seems to be that we are either 1) evil temptresses or 2) baby producing machines. Honestly, I don’t even know what to say to that crap. Maybe you’d better go check out Shakespeare’s sister. She much more verbose than I am today.

I have to admit, I do kind of feel sorry for all those poor male pastors who are afraid to meet with a woman or drive with a woman in a car. It must suck to be such an incredible woosie. I have lots of female pastor friends and none of them seem to have problems resisting men in tight jeans, or youth group leaders who offer an innocent ride home after a church social. Lord almighty! And people say we are the weaker sex!

You know, I get that the Haggard situation is both a scandal and a tragedy. It’s sad when someone is living a secret life that is damaging to his or her personhood and to the personhood of others. But to me, the thing that is more heart wrenching is that one man can damage so many. By this I do not mean Haggard’s betrayal of trust with his many followers, but Driscoll’s deeply destructive lie that women are evil and must be dominated at all cost.

To promote misogyny is evil. To do so under the banner of Jesus is blasphemy.

When will our action match our outrage?

12 Responses to “Evil Temptressess”

  1. Ray Says:
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    Hi Rachelle,

    I’m proud to be the first to comment. I was actually going to email you today and ask you, on behalf of someone I know, if there are any Vineyard or Vineyard-type churches out there who are accepting of gays and lesbians? Probably a stretch, but thought I would check…

    I have some thoughts about the Ted Haggard scandal, too. Once upon a time, I was involved in his church’s deaf outreach. I wrote about it in my blog if you care to read the entry (”Oh wow”). Very tragic, and yes, I’m with ya, the bigger sin here is perpetuating an attitude of condemnation and secretive behavior that is more self-destructive than being in a loving same-sex relationship ever will be.

    Thanks for the rant, Rachelle! I’m ranting beside ya!

    Grace and peace, Ray

  2. Rachelle Says:
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    Ray,

    As far as I know, Vineyards aren’t open and affirming. For instance, the Seattle Vineyard sometimes describes itself as “open but not affirming.” Most take the stance of asking gays and lesbians to be celibate, some take the approach that gays and lesbians should be “healed.” Needless to say, it was one of the underlying reasons I needed to step away. Because Vineyards are part of an ‘association’ and not a denomination, each congregation makes it’s own policy decisions — so there might be a Vineyard outthere that would be supportive, but I don’t personally know of one.

    -Rachelle

  3. bob c Says:
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    Amen sister. I called Mars Hill to complain - it astounds me he is allowed to this and still considered part of the ‘gellie start chamber.

  4. Timothfy Says:
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    Many people in the “christian” community love the posturing and hard hitting crapola that they choose to call “truth”. It may be truth to them, but it is far from the Truth. The Truth set the example while He walked the earth, which seems to be by and large ignored by those who are conducting “church” today.

    Jesus only showed intollerence to those who were intollerent, the church of His day. He only chastised and blasted those who were LEADERS in that church system of his day. Those like Mr. Driscoll would, in my opinion, be right in His crosshairs if it was today that He came to walk the earth as a man.

    The issue isn’t what is sin, what causes sin, what sin is “worse” than another, that is pretty much an issue between each person and God Himself. The issue is personal obedience and devotion to Jesus, loving Him, serving Him in whatever Way He leads one in. I may not express my worship the same way as Rachelle, but I find her diversity from myself beautiful and dynamic.

    I’d much rather be with those who are sure of their faith and their beliefs than those who are so concerned about sexual temptation and the sexual orientation or proclivities of others. Those like Ted Haggard and other notables who have “fallen” have been simply warped by a system that, by it’s very rigid “rules”, supplants the love of God for approval of man and lust for power over man.

    At least that’s a part of how I feel about it.

    Mr. Driscoll is a pawn and lackey of a church with a form of godliness but with not much God in it as far as I can see.

    Peace!

    Timothy

  5. Nicki McG Says:
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    Hey Rachelle, normally i wouldnt care to dialogue on controvery via web but to be honest most of closer circle is of the same opinion i am (aka homosexuality is not a sin -but homosexual sex is). My brother is a practicing homosexual in a commited relationship and active in his church - so this is an ever present conversation I am in. I am curious as to how you came to your conclusions. You give a lot of thought to your conclusions - so i am honestly asking.

  6. bobbie Says:
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    hey rachelle,

    i just wanted to give you a ‘head’s up’ on this:


    Take Action on November 19

    i’d be there if i could - but am on the exact opposite coast - i hope this becomes something that brings light to this ugly theology.

  7. Rachelle Says:
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    Bobbie,

    Tee Hee that’s my hubby’s site…

    Rachelle

  8. tracey Says:
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    I also am not a usually verbal browser.

    We were out to dinner tonight when my husband told me what driscoll said. I saw red. Then my heart hurt for all the women who will actually consider his evil words truth. In a world of objectification and domestic violence there is no room for this dribble. He is damaged goods and subjecting vulnerable women to torture and abusive behaviors. The first thing I wanted to do was read your response to this mess. I appreciate you.

  9. benjamin ady Says:
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    Rachelle–Paul is your hubby? Ok, very kewl, now I am definitely going to have to come check out your church!

  10. Mike Says:
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    Nicely said, Rachelle. Keep kicking.

  11. jenellparis Says:
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    I can understand why having a wife who dresses like, say, me, might make a man want to use meth, but why would a disheveled wife make a man want to be intimate with another man? Maybe if a wife is so extremely, outrageously, irreparably gone to seed, it makes a man unable to bear the sight not only of her, but of any other woman. Right now I’m going to go take off my relatively old sweatshirt from 1990, and put on my relatively new, sexy sweatshirt from 1995, and just pray it’s not too late.

  12. Heather Says:
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    It boggles my mind why so many people continue to be drawn to Driscoll’s church. I was at a church-related workshop not long ago and the workshop leader made a comment about how Driscoll’s church was one of the few churches that manages to attract more men than women. Though I kept silent at the time, I couldn’t help but think “no big surprise, since he clearly has no respect for women”.

    His comment makes me so very sad for all the women he’s hurting - women who believe in his version of “truth”.